Family Therapy in Seattle

At Anchor Light Therapy Collective, we understand that family relationships can be difficult to navigate during the best of times. But when families are faced with stressors like a global pandemic, chronic illness, financial stress, job loss or addiction, it can become too much to manage on your own.

A Family Therapist in Seattle can help you and yours understand the dynamics at play, and create the positive changes that will put you on the road to having the family environment that you have always wanted.

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Types of Family Therapy

There are many rich and interesting modalities that your Family and Relationship Therapist can use to help you improve your family relationships. Your Family Counselor in Seattle will evaluate your situation and choose the modalities and interventions best suited to your family’s particular needs.

  1. Emotionally-Focused Therapy
  2. Bowenian Family Therapy
  3. Milan Family Therapy
  4. Narrative Family Therapy
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Emotionally-Focused Therapy

Emotionally-Focused family therapy (EFT) was developed by Sue Johnson and can be used with couples and families. It is based on attachment theory- a theory that looks at how we learn to attach or connect to others from our very early childhood.

By understanding our attachment styles, we can gain insight into how we behave and interact in relationships, and what we need to feel safe and secure. 

Emotionally-Focused Family Therapists help their clients understand the difference between primary emotions like hurt or sadness, and secondary emotions like fear or embarrassment.

When family members can slow down, identify and communicate their primary emotions with one another, real healing can occur.

Bowenian Family Therapy

This type of therapy was developed by Murray Bowen in the 1950’s and looks at the relationship between our drive to be a part of our family and our opposing need to be individuals.

According to Bowen, we need a balance of independence and togetherness to be healthy, and reaching that balance is called becoming “differentiated”. He also stressed the importance of reducing emotional reactivity among family members.

Bowen invented the genogram, a tool therapists use to diagram family histories going back at least three generations, so that they can see patterns that reach across generations and how they might be impacting the current state of affairs.

A therapist using Bowenian Family Therapy would work to help individuals increase their differentiation and sense of self, decrease their emotional reactivity to each other, and repair any ruptures or cut-offs in family relationships.

Milan Family Therapy

Milan therapy works to uncover belief systems of individual family members or the family as a whole, challenging the family to explore those beliefs.

Where do they originate from? Are they adding value to your lives and relationships?

Milan therapists focus on patterns, rituals and behaviors that families have, particularly around conflict, to help discover those sometimes-hidden belief systems. In this way, the Family Therapist can help clients replace unhealthy belief systems with healthier frameworks that match their values.

Narrative Family Therapy

Human beings are narrative creatures. We think in stories or narratives, and form all kinds of stories about ourselves and our family members that make up the mythology of our family.

Narrative Family Therapy helps us to recognize the narratives we have about ourselves and each other so that we can let go of old stories that no longer serve us or our families, and replace them with narratives that are more accurate and positive.

For example, maybe one sibling got in trouble a lot as a child and developed a narrative about being “the bad one” that they carry with them through life? Maybe other family members also viewed this person as a black sheep.

This may have little to do with that person’s identity anymore, but could be holding them back in terms of their potential and their relationships. Narrative Therapy empowers clients to take control of their own narratives, values, and recognize their competence and self-worth.

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Reasons To Get Therapy For Your Family

The word “Family” is synonymous with belonging, but what do you do when family time leaves you feeling lonely and disconnected? What if your family system is more prone to conflict than harmony?

Sometimes therapy or counseling needs to happen one-on-one, just one client and their therapist, setting goals, venting frustrations, hashing out feelings, peeling back the layers of the onion.

But sometimes we have issues in our family relationships that we can’t seem to solve with the individual tools we learn from a counselor. Have you noticed that there are family dynamics at play that you don’t quite understand? Do you need help working on your family relationships?

Family counseling can help.


What are the indications for Family Therapy?

  • Fighting, arguing, dischord in the family
  • Family members feel disconnected from each other
  • Major life transitions- divorce, remarriage, death of a family member, birth or adoption of a new sibling, retirement, moving, changing schools, family member questioning gender identity
  • Traumatic event- illness in the family, assault, abuse, car accident, police violence, arrest
  • Behavior changes in children- children are suddenly withdrawn, or aggressive, impulsive, “acting out”

What is the focus of family therapy?

Family Therapy is focused on the health and wellbeing of individual family members as well as the health of the relationships between family members. Family therapists or counselors observe the dynamics of the family system to find places where they might be stuck in patterns that are not serving the individuals or the family as a whole.

What is family therapy and what are its goals and benefits?

As with any form of therapy, goal setting should be a collaborative process between therapist and clients. With Family Therapy, there are more clients needs to consider. Often families want to improve their communication and sense of wellbeing within the family unit, although they may come with more specific goals like working on boundary setting or repairing a damaged relationship.

When should you seek family counseling?

Family Counseling is appropriate not only for families in crisis, but also for families who want to increase their ability to communicate effectively, and enhance their relationships.

Family Therapy Pricing

Therapy creates a space for you to experience healing and progress in a way that can change your life. But of course, it’s also an investment of both time and finances. When you’re ready to commit to healing and transformation, here is what you can expect.

Initial intake appointment
(90 minutes) $200

Standard individual session
(90 minutes) $200

Extended sessions
(per every 30 minutes) $50


We do not participate with any insurance panels. Anchor Light Therapy Collective is considered an out-of-network provider. We have chosen to not panel with any insurance companies and instead focus on providing the best care to our clients. Bypassing insurance allows us to create treatment plans that are not influenced by criteria dictated by insurance companies and offer the utmost privacy to our clients.

As a courtesy to any individual clients who wish to utilize their insurance benefits, I am happy to verify your out-of-network plan benefits to tell you what portion, if any, may be covered by your health insurance provider.

The client will pay for their session at the time of service. We will then file an electronic claim on your behalf, as well as submit any additional documentation required by your insurance company.

If your plan offers out of network coverage, they will reimburse you directly by mailing you a check.

Out of network insurance coverage varies. Most insurance plans offer out of network coverage that reimburses at 40-70% once you have met the out of network deductible.