If you have a 7-figure net worth, it means you have a million bucks. And to me, if you have a 7-figure self-worth, it means that you feel like a million bucks. And feeling like a million bucks is the one of the best feelings in the world because your head is held high, you believe in and accept yourself, and you have total self-confidence. Sound good? Then follow these seven steps to have a 7-figure self-worth.
“To establish true self-esteem, we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.”
—Dr. Denis Waitley, author of The Psychology of Winning
I will be happy when I am thinner, richer, more successful, in a relationship, validated by others … and the list goes on and on. What if I told you that none of those things really matter? The only reason you want any of those things is because you believe they will make you happy, which is great—pursue your dreams and goals. But why be miserable in the meantime when you could be happy right now? What are your top 10 qualities? You are a unique human being with special traits and gifts. We all are. Stop comparing yourself to others. Write a list of your positive attributes as well as any of your accomplishments that make you feel proud of yourself. Learn to play up your strengths instead of focusing on what seems to be lacking, and you will experience a major shift both inside and out.
You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”
—Louise L. Hay
If you want to create a 7-figure self-worth, you must start by learning how to love you! This is hard to do when your mind is stuck on a constant loop of insults and criticisms. Notice what your mental chatter has to say. Is it punishing and negative? Ask yourself what purpose this serves. Is it helping you feel good and create the results you want? If the answer is no, then it’s time for a change. Positive thoughts and affirmations will not only move you closer to creating the results you want, they also will help you feel better in the process.
Do you find yourself spending time with people who are negative or make you feel bad? You know, those people who leave you feeling completely drained and bummed out after spending time with them. We can’t avoid them all the time—they could be your boss or a member of your family—but you might want to start limiting the contact you have with them. Spend your time with people who lift you up, inspire you, and make you feel good. People who are highly critical of themselves or you will not get you to a 7-figure self- worth because you will be focused on the negative, which ultimately leads to feeling bad. Don’t engage in conversations where people are putting themselves, you, or others down. This practice is not only hurtful to your self-esteem but also to the people who you indulge during these conversations.
Often when we have low self-worth, we find it extremely difficult to accept a compliment. We might even feel compelled to explain to the person complimenting us why we don’t deserve it. When someone tells you that you look good, simply say, “Thank you.” You don’t need to tell them that you bought your outfit on clearance. or that the lovely meal you made was not 100% from scratch, or that you have probably gained weight since the last time you saw them. None of this is necessary or helpful. The practice of receiving the appreciation of others will help you learn to appreciate yourself—even if it makes you uncomfortable or you don’t feel deserving. Accepting praise with appreciation will ultimately help you see what other people are already seeing: the wonderful and unique person you already are.
Let’s face it. When it comes to your inner bitch, she’s ruthless! We all have a critical voice that has some crazy things to say. She usually wants to tell you that your butt is too big, you are not worthy of a healthy loving relationship, you are stupid, or not enough for whatever reason. She is crazy, and people with a 7-figure self-worth tune her out. Practice being the observer of your thoughts. Notice how many of them are hurtful and aim to convince you of the reasons that you aren’t good enough. Question these negative thoughts. Keep practicing, and you’ll start to notice just how crazy these this voice can be. We have hundreds of thousands of thoughts that pass through our minds throughout the day. The only ones that are real are the ones we choose to believe. Try investing in some positive thoughts about how amazing and worthy you are, and watch your life experience change dramatically!
To feel good, you need to take care of your physical body. Choose to eat foods that nourish your body. Quit smoking. Drink less alcohol. Get adequate rest. Find a way to exercise that you enjoy. It is not selfish to make YOU a priority. And if you want to have a 7-figure self-worth, it’s required. On top of taking care of your physical body, you need to find joy. Do things that nourish your soul. Take a walk out in nature, get a puppy, or garden. Do something that you love.
Learn to say no! Part of having confidence and self-esteem is having the courage to honor your own Yes and No. It’s not always easy to have good boundaries with other people but it’s one of the best ways you can practice taking care of you. Listen to your intuition and follow your inner compass. Ask yourself if you are doing things just to please other people, and if the answer is yes, notice how are you feeling. If you find that you are feeling guilty, resentful, and depleted, it’s time to work on your boundaries!
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