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How to Build Self-Worth: 7 Steps Toward 7-Figure Self-Esteem

Laura Richer, Seattle Therapist

Dec 26, 2023

If you have a 7-figure net worth, it means you have a million bucks. Having a 7-figure self-worth implies that you feel like a million bucks.

Having a sense of mental health worth a million bucks is one of the best feelings in the world because your head is held high, you believe in yourself, accept yourself, and have total self-confidence. Sound good? Then let’s look at seven steps to creating a 7-figure self-worth and things that could get in the way.

Understanding Self-Worth

Self-worth is an internal sense of being good enough and deserving of love and belonging from others. It’s often developed during childhood, influenced by how family, friends, and peers treat us. A strong sense of self-worth is critical because it shapes how we interact with the world. It affects our choices, relationships, and goals. On the flip side, a low sense of self-worth can lead to negative outcomes like depression, anxiety, and unhealthy relationships. Building solid self-worth empowers us to navigate life’s challenges with resilience and confidence, fostering a sense of fulfillment, happiness, and robust mental health.

Take These 7 Steps to Develop a 7-Figure Self-Worth

Embarking on a journey to develop 7-figure self-worth is about nurturing your inner self. These steps guide you through recognizing your inherent value and embracing the full extent of your capabilities and qualities. Let’s delve into these transformative steps:

1. Realize That Happiness Is a Choice

“To establish true self-esteem, we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.” —Dr. Denis Waitley, author of The Psychology of Winning

I will be happy when I am thinner, richer, more successful, in a relationship, validated by others … and the list goes on and on. What if I told you that none of those things matter? You only want any of those things because you believe they will make you happy, which is excellent—pursue your dreams and goals. But why be miserable in the meantime when you could be happy right now? What are your top 10 qualities? You are a unique human being with special traits and gifts. We all are. Stop comparing yourself to others. Write a list of your positive attributes and accomplishments that make you feel proud of yourself. Learn to play up your strengths instead of focusing on what seems to be lacking, and you will experience a significant shift inside and out.

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2. Monitor Your Internal Dialogue

You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” —Louise L. Hay

If you want to create a 7-figure self-worth, you must start by learning how to love yourself! This is hard to do when your mind is stuck on a constant loop of insults and criticisms. Notice what your mental chatter has to say. Is it punishing and negative? Ask yourself what purpose this serves. Is it helping you feel good and create the results you want? If the answer is no, then it’s time for a change. Positive thoughts and affirmations will move you closer to creating the results you want and help you feel better in the process.

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3. Stay Away from Energy Vampires

Do you find yourself spending time with people who are negative or make you feel bad? You know, those people who leave you feeling completely drained and bummed out after spending time with them. We can’t always avoid them—they could be your boss or a member of your family—but you might want to start limiting your contact with them. Spend time with people who lift you up, inspire you, and make you feel good. People who are highly critical of themselves, or you, will not get you to 7-figure self-worth because they will be focused on the negative, ultimately leading to feeling bad. Don’t engage in conversations where people put themselves, you, or others down. This practice is hurtful to your self-esteem and the people with whom you indulge during these conversations.

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4. When Someone Has Something Nice to Say, Thank Them

We often find it extremely difficult to accept a compliment when we have low self-worth. We might even feel compelled to explain why we don’t deserve it to the person complimenting us. When someone tells you you look good, say, “Thank you.” You don’t need to tell them you bought your outfit on clearance. Or that the lovely meal you made was not 100% from scratch, or that you have probably gained weight since the last time you saw them. None of this is necessary or helpful. The practice of receiving the appreciation of others will help you learn to appreciate yourself—even if it makes you uncomfortable or you don’t feel deserving. Accepting praise with appreciation will ultimately help you see what other people already see: the wonderful and unique person you are.

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5. Stop Listening to the Inner Narrative That Causes Low Self-Esteem

Let’s face it. When it comes to your inner narrative, it can be ruthless! We all have a critical voice that has some crazy things to say. It usually wants to tell you that your body looks terrible, you are not worthy of a healthy loving relationship, you are stupid, or not enough for whatever reason. It’s crazy, and people with 7-figure self-worth tune it out. Practice being the observer of your thoughts. Notice how many of them are hurtful, cause low self-confidence, and aim to convince you of the reasons that you aren’t good enough. Question these negative thoughts. Keep practicing, and you’ll start to notice just how crazy these this voice can be. Hundreds of thousands of thoughts pass through our minds throughout the day. The only ones that are real are the ones we choose to believe. Try investing in positive thoughts about how amazing and worthy you are to boost self-esteem and watch your own life experience change dramatically!

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6. Practice Radical Self-Care for Radical Self-Confidence

To feel good, you need to take care of your physical body. Choose to eat foods that nourish your body. Quit smoking. Drink less alcohol. Get adequate rest. Find a way to exercise that you enjoy. It is not selfish to make YOU a priority. And if you want to have a 7-figure self-worth, it’s required. On top of taking care of your physical body, you need to find joy. Do things that nourish your soul. Take a walk out in nature, get a puppy, or garden. Do something that you love.

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7. Transform Your Boundaries

Learn to say no! Part of having confidence and self-esteem is having the courage to honor your own Yes and No. Having good boundaries with others is not always easy, but it’s one of the best steps to take when caring for yourself. Listen to your intuition and follow your inner compass. Ask yourself if you are doing things to please other people; if the answer is yes, notice how you feel. If you feel guilty, resentful, and depleted, it’s time to work on your boundaries!

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Watch Out for These Self-Confidence Killers 

Even as you work on building self-worth, it’s essential to be aware of factors that can undermine it. Here are five common self-confidence killers and ways to avoid them:

  1. Negative Social Comparisons: Comparing yourself unfavorably to others can erode self-worth. Focus on your journey and growth.
  2. Perfectionism: Striving for unattainable perfection sets you up for disappointment. Embrace your imperfections and learn from your mistakes.
  3. People Pleasing: Consistently prioritizing others’ needs over your own can lead to a loss of self. Learn to balance your needs with those of others.
  4. Ignoring Personal Boundaries: Not setting or respecting boundaries can lead to resentment and loss of self-respect—practice assertiveness.
  5. Self-Neglect: Neglecting your physical and emotional needs can diminish your sense of self-worth. Prioritize self-care and self-compassion.

Therapy Can Help You Develop a Sense of Healthy Self-Esteem

Developing a healthy sense of self-esteem and 7-figure self-worth can sometimes be a challenging journey that can be significantly supported by therapy. Mental health professionals, like those at Anchor Light Therapy Collective, offer a safe and nurturing environment to explore and address the underlying issues that affect your self-esteem. Through individualized approaches, therapy can help you uncover your strengths, work through past traumas, and build resilience. By engaging in this process, you can develop the skills and mindset needed to navigate life with confidence and a profound sense of self-worth.

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